Temper tantrums are outbursts of anger, crying, whining, yelling, kicking and other disruptive behaviors in toddlers or young kids. They may seem like overreactions to simple requests. Kids usually throw temper tantrums because they don’t have the words to express themselves. They’re more likely to happen when kids are tired, hungry or frustrated.
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A temper tantrum is when a child has an outburst of anger and frustration. Tantrums can be physical, verbal or both. Your child might cry, whine, yell, stamp their feet, act out or otherwise be disruptive.
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Tantrums are a normal part of child development. They’re most common in toddlers but in some kids they last longer into childhood. To adults, they can often seem like kids are making a big deal out of nothing. For example, your child thrashes, yells or hits when you ask them to put away a toy or tell them they can’t have a treat. But what’s usually going on when a child throws a tantrum is that they can’t express their thoughts or emotions with words.
Toddlers often throw temper tantrums because of the conflict they feel. They want to be independent. But they still need help sometimes, and they still want their parents’ attention. They haven’t developed coping skills to deal with strong emotions or disappointments. And they often don’t have the words to explain how they feel, so they act out instead.
Specifically, kids might throw a temper tantrum if they’re:
During a temper tantrum, your child may:
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There are some strategies you can try to help diffuse a tantrum:
If you think your child might hurt themselves or other people, get them to a safe place, away from others. Consider holding them so they don’t hurt themselves. Use a “time-out” if necessary, placing them in a room away from TV and other distractions.
Try not to:
Once the tantrum is over, talk to your child about what happened and how they can stop tantrums from happening again. Try to:
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It’s unlikely you’ll be able to prevent every tantrum. They’re part of how kids communicate and a natural part of development. But a few strategies might help your child have fewer or milder tantrums:
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Kids most often have tantrums between ages 1 and 4. They usually start to have fewer tantrums when they start school. This is when they start talking more and can more easily express their thoughts and feelings.
Sometimes, tantrums are a sign of other issues. Contact your child’s healthcare provider about temper tantrums if:
Your provider may ask you questions about the tantrums. These questions can help them figure out if there’s cause for concern:
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Temper tantrums don’t mean poor parenting. They’re a normal part of child development. Kids tend to have them as they learn to become more independent. Your child might have them more or less frequently depending on their personality.
Temper tantrums can be a frustrating part of parenting. As an adult, it can be hard to understand why little things trigger big feelings. But most of the time, tantrums are a normal part of childhood. They’re a way for kids to express themselves. If your child has violent or lengthy temper tantrums or any other concerning behavior, talk to their healthcare provider.
As your child grows, you need healthcare providers by your side to guide you through each step. Cleveland Clinic Children’s is there with care you can trust.
Last reviewed on 07/17/2025.
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